Meaning in what you do

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Hey, do you know that painful processes and challenges we experience in life are not always bad?

There are countless arguments about how painful the process of growing can be, and how tempting it is to avoid the pain that comes with every challenge we face. We often find ourselves wondering whether there is a better way or whether we really have to go through all this pain just to become a better version of ourselves.

But is that really how we should see it?

Brianna Wiest, in her book 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think, argues that every process we experience in life has its own purpose. Sometimes, it is meant to build a stronger personality. Sometimes, it is meant to develop a more mature way of thinking, one that can eventually become our greatest weapon when facing the battles of our own minds and the realities of life, where critical thinking and analytical thinking are often necessary.

Perhaps the pain itself is not the enemy.

Perhaps the process is shaping something within us that we cannot see yet.

The idea of success that is constantly emphasized by society can create a misunderstanding that puts enormous pressure on people.

One of the clearest examples is failure.

When someone fails in a particular part of their life, whether in their career, relationships, or something else. They may immediately feel as though they are falling behind. They begin comparing themselves with others and questioning whether they are still capable of changing.

But does failure really mean that someone cannot grow?

Does making mistakes mean that someone is incapable of becoming better?

Or could failure actually be part of the process itself?

Brianna Wiest presents a rather bold perspective on this matter: perhaps success should not be defined solely by the final result. Instead, success can be found in the continuous process of becoming a better version of ourselves.

It does not matter how long the process takes or how far someone has to travel before they finally see a change. As long as there is a genuine desire to grow, change will gradually take place.

Growth does not always happen dramatically.

Sometimes, it happens quietly.

Sometimes, you only realize how much you have changed when you look back at the person you used to be.

Another assumption that deserves to be questioned is the idea that happiness must come from pursuing the things we love.

We grow up being told that passion is the key to a happy life. Find what you love. Follow your passion. Do what makes you happy.

But is it really that simple?

Can we guarantee that we will continue loving something even when doing it becomes difficult?

What happens when the thing we are passionate about makes us suffer?

And what guarantees that, at the end of the road, we will still feel happy because we chose something we loved today?

Sometimes, these biases need to be challenged.

We should not become too attached to the idea of happiness as something that must always be present in our lives. Happiness can be temporary, and so can passion.

Perhaps there are moments when we need to leave our comfort zones, experience something unfamiliar, and walk through a completely different chapter of life.

Not necessarily because the life we had before was wrong, but because sometimes we need to experience something new in order to discover something deeper:

Meaning.

And perhaps true happiness does not come from constantly chasing happiness itself. Perhaps it comes from discovering meaning in what we do, what we experience, and what we are becoming.

At the end of the day, enjoy the process you are going through.

Even when there is pain.

Even when there are wounds.

Even when tears are waiting just around the corner.

Trust that not everything needs to make sense immediately.

You do not have to rush through your process just because everyone else seems to be moving faster than you. The process itself is what allows you to grow, mature, and continuously develop over time.

The final result is not always the most important part.

What matters is whether the journey has given your life meaning or whether it has changed you, taught you something, or allowed you to become someone who can eventually create meaning for others as well.

So keep going.

Keep growing.

And when the process becomes painful, remember that pain does not necessarily mean you are on the wrong path.

Sometimes, it simply means that you are becoming someone you have never been before.

Keep going, and keep moving forward.

God bless.

Note from H. Tayrone:
I guess that's what I've always been searching in everything I do. Meaning. Reason. 
There is no simple in life. Really great work here!

See you tomorrow with something new!

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